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02 February 2010 @ 01:09 pm
Cheating while in a monogamous relationship.  Is it just human nature?

I have gotten into a few debates lately with various people on this topic and I am honestly shocked with people's opinions.  They seem to believe that cheating is human nature and we have very little control over it.  I disagree.  While it may be human nature to find people attractive in a sexual way, I fully believe in choice and self control.  Tiger Woods came up in conversation.  They say that Tiger's wife should have "expected" him to cheat on her because of his profession.  That she should have known it was coming.  Sure, being a professional golfer (or a rock star, or a navy guy) has those certain stereotypes, but should she really have "expected" it was going to happen 100%?  So she shouldn't be upset about it?  That just doesn't sit right with me.

I personally have never cheated on anyone... ever!  And I never would.  I believe that if you really care about someone, you should be able to resist temptation.  And if you are in the mindframe where you are considering cheating on a consistant basis, then you shouldn't be with the person in the first place.  Just end it.  Why bother dragging it out?  Break it off and then you can go out and do whatever you want without hurting another person.

I don't know.  It's all subject to opinion, but it just makes me lose faith in finding loyalty when so many people seem to have just accepted the fact that everyone is just going to end up cheating on each other.  So we're all just supposed to "expect" to be cheated on?  All I know is that whoever ends up dating me now or in the future will never be cheated on and all I can hope for is to find someone who also has the same opinion.  Otherwise, what's the point?
Current Mood: disappointeddisappointed
31 January 2010 @ 07:52 pm

It's becoming more and more apparent how much people lie.  Maybe this was always the case, but it just seems like EVERYONE I come across lately feels the need to lie through their teeth.  And pointless lies too.  Super pointless.

I will give you a specific example.

Was hanging out with someone I just met and we were browsing through YouTube watching funny videos.  It all started with me wanting to show him Paper Towels.  So various videos later, I ask him if he has ever seen the disgustingly popular 2 Girls 1 Cup.  He said no, and it fact, he had never even heard of it.  So obviously I found a torrent of it and showed him.  We then spent the next hour watching the reaction videos on YouTube.

Flash forward exactly one week.  Out at a pub with a friend (who happens to know this guy).  Mentioned showing him 2 Girls 1 Cup and the fact that he had never seen it before.  Friend laughs and says that guy was the one to show him the video a couple years ago.

OK... so why??  Why bother saying you hadn't seen the video?  Because he thought I would be super stoked if I was the first one to show it to him?  Well, to be honest, I was... but only because I was so shocked he said he had never heard of it.  How could you not know about it??  But really, why bother?  Such a pointless lie with no gain whatsoever.  Not that lying is ok if some sort of personal gain is there, but at least it would be less pointless.

This is just one specific examples in a sea of liars I seem to be coming across lately.  For someone who is so brutally honest all the time, it drives me crazy!!  Does no one value the truth anymore?  
Current Mood: aggravatedaggravated
05 November 2009 @ 04:59 pm

I am going to give you a piece of advice…advice I wish I’d been told in guidance class back in high school, in between the don’t-do-acid and don’t-drink-and-drive films. I wish our counselors had told us, ‘When you grow older a dreadful, horrible sensation will come over you. It’s called loneliness, and you think you know what it is now, but you don’t. Here is the list of the symptoms, and don’t worry—loneliness is the most universal sensation on the planet. Just remember one fact—loneliness will pass. You will survive and you will be a better human for it.’

Douglas Coupland
Current Mood: lonelylonely
06 September 2009 @ 08:13 pm
Well, I deleted my old LiveJournal a long time ago after a few years of posts.  Gotta say... I have regretted it ever since.  Kirsten warned me that I would and she was right.  But out with the old and in with the new!

Here is my new LiveJournal!  I will mention that I think it's pretty lame that I couldn't use my old username that I deleted unless I paid a fee to claim it!  Not having it.  So new blog, new username.

Here we go....
Current Location: Canada, Victoria
Current Mood: accomplishedaccomplished