No, you are not at the movies, Jenna, this is actually your life. Perhaps you can't believe your eyes, but it's time to say good-bye to your very rigid attitude about things. A little pleasure among all that seriousness and responsibility won't do you any harm. This day could help you to change your point of view on life! And how good this will feel!
For some reason, this speaks to me a lot. I really do need to have more fun! I have been thinking this for awhile, but it's hard for me to live in the moment. I need to stop worrying about the future and as it says, get rid of my rigid attitude. It's summer and I am going to have the best summer ever if it kills me! Tubing, Camping, Drinking, Patios, BBQs, VEMF!!!!!!!!!!!
His reply.... Of course he could go for the sure thing, but what's the point? He wants the ego boost of taking home the girl that would be a little more of a challenge... ie. the waitress who is really hot and stone sober. He said that he likes the challenge because "it's too easy with most girls".
Bingo! He said the exact same thing that I have been thinking for years and it really makes me quite sad. What has happened to girls these days that it's just THAT easy? Some people have said that it's because women are more empowered to do what they want and have sex with whomever they want. Those people even say that while guys have never been considered whores when they have one night stands, the times have changed and now girls are no longer considered whores either.
I asked my friend. "If you do get a girl to go home with you after just meeting her, do you consider her a slut?" He didn't even skip a beat, "OF COURSE!" he exclaimed very passionately. "But what if you think you might really like her?" He said, "I don't even expect to like a girl who I meet at the bar. If they are at the bar looking to hook up, then that's not the type of girl I would end up really liking."
It's really sad to me that guys just "expect" it to be that easy. It reminds me of the party I was at on New Years Eve. There was a guy who I ended up talking to for an hour or so. I was about ready to go home and he said I should go with him back to his place. I said no and he persisted in asking a couple more times. I continued to say no and he literally go mad and yelled at me "Yeah, maybe it's better you stay here anyway!" and stormed off. I was in shock! Absolute shock! I mean, it's not like I don't expect guys to try... they always do... but to actually get MAD at that fact that I am not like every other whore. Wow.
But it also proves the very point that has stuck by me in my morals to this day. While other girls may be out there having their "fun", that will never be me. I am looking for something bigger and the type of guy who is going to be that one who only wants the "sure thing" isn't the type of guy I would ever want to date anyway. Thank you for making it so easy to weed out the morons! And girls, quit making the rest of us look bad because you can't keep your legs closed. As crappy as it is, there is still a double standard with guys sleeping around versus girls sleeping around and no matter what anyone tells you, YES... He does think you are a whore and NO... he isn't going to call you again.
1. You Forget 90% of Your Dreams
Within 5 minutes of waking half of your dream is forgotten. Within 10, 90% is gone.
2. Blind People also Dream
People who became blind after birth can see images in their dreams. People who are born blind do not see any images, but have dreams equally vivid involving their other senses of sound, smell, touch and emotion.
3. Everybody Dreams
Every human being dreams (except in cases of extreme psychological disorder). If you think you are not dreaming – you just forget your dreams.
4. In Our Dreams We Only See Faces That We already Know
Our mind is not inventing faces – in our dreams we see real faces of real people that we have seen during our life but may not know or remember. We have all seen hundreds of thousands of faces throughout our lives, so we have an endless supply of characters for our brain to utilize during our dreams.
5. Not Everybody Dreams in Color
A full 12% of sighted people dream exclusively in black and white. The remaining number dream in full color. Studies from 1915 through to the 1950s maintained that the majority of dreams were in black and white, but these results began to change in the 1960s. Today only 4.4% of the dreams of under-25 year-olds are in black and white. Recent research has suggested that those changing results may be linked to the switch from black-and-white film and TV to color media.
6. Dreams are Symbolic
If you dream about some particular subject it is not often that the dream is about that. Dreams speak in a deeply symbolic language. Whatever symbol your dream picks on it is most unlikely to be a symbol for itself.
(bamboo for h.koppdelaney)
The most common emotion experienced in dreams is anxiety. Negative emotions are more common than positive ones.
8. You can have four to seven dreams in one night.
On average you can dream anywhere from one or two hours every night.
9. Animals Dream Too
Studies have been done on many different animals, and they all show the same brain waves during dreaming sleep as humans. Watch a dog sleeping sometime. The paws move like they are running and they make yipping sounds as if they are chasing something in a dream.
10. Body Paralysis
Rapid eye movement (REM) sleep is a normal stage of sleep characterized by rapid movements of the eyes. REM sleep in adult humans typically occupies 20-25% of total sleep, about 90-120 minutes of a night’s sleep.
During REM sleep the body is paralyzed by a mechanism in the brain in order to prevent the movements which occur in the dream from causing the physical body to move. However, it is possible for this mechanism to be triggered before, during, or after normal sleep while the brain awakens.
11. Dream Incorporation
Our mind interprets the external stimuli that our senses are bombarded with when we are asleep and make them a part of our dreams. This means that sometimes in our dreams we hear a sound from reality and incorporate it in a way. For example you may be dreaming that you are in a concert while your brother is playing a guitar during your sleep.
12. Men and Women Dream Differently
Men tend to dream more about other men. Around 70% of the characters in a man’s dream are other men. On the other hand, a woman’s dream contains almost an equal number of men and women. Aside from that, men generally have more aggressive emotions in their dreams than the female lot.
13. Precognitive Dreams
Results of several surveys across large population sets indicate that between 18% and 38% of people have experienced at least one precognitive dream and 70% have experienced déjà vu. The percentage of persons that believe precognitive dreaming is possible is even higher – ranging from 63% to 98%.
*Precognition, also called future sight, refers to perception that involves the acquisition of future information that cannot be deduced from presently available and normally acquired sense-based information.
14. If you are snoring, then you cannot be dreaming.
This fact is repeated all over the Internet, but I’m a bit suspicious whether it’s really true as I haven’t found any scientific evidence to support it.
15.You can experience an orgasm in your dream
You can not only have s e x as pleasurable as in your real life while dreaming, but also experience an o r g a s m as strong as a real one without any wet results. The sensations felt while lucid dreaming (touch, pleasure and etc..) can be as pleasurable and strong (or I believe even stronger) as the sensations experienced in the real world.
We love your body. If If we're in love with you, we love your body. Your potbelly, everything. Even if you're insecure about something, we love your body. You feel like you're not this or that? We love your body. We embrace everything. Because it's you.
Speaking of your body, you don't understand the power of your own smell. Any woman who is currently with a man is with him partly because she loves the way he smells. And if we haven't smelled you for a day or two and then we suddenly are within inches of you, we swoon. We get light-headed. It's intoxicating. It's heady.
We remember forever what you say about the bodies of other women. When you mention in passing that a certain woman is attractive — could be someone in the office, a woman on the street, a celebrity, any woman in the world, really — your comment goes into a steel box and it stays there forever. We will file the comment under "Women He Finds Attractive." It's not about whether or not we approve of the comment. It's about learning what you think is sexy and how we might be able to convey it. It's about keeping our man by knowing what he likes.
Never complain about our friends — even if we do. No matter how many times we say a friend of ours is driving us crazy, you are not to pile on. Not because it offends us. But because it adds to the weight that we carry around about her.
Remember what we like. When I first started dating my husband, I had this weird fascination with the circus and clowns and old carnival things and sideshow freaks and all that. About a month after we started dating, he bought me this amazing black-and-white photo book on the circus in the 1930s, and I started sobbing. Which freaked him out. I thought, 'Oh, my God, I mentioned this three or four weeks ago and talked about it briefly, but he was really listening to me. And he actually went out and researched and found this thing for me.' It was amazing.
Stand up, open a door, offer a jacket. We talk about it with our friends after you do it. We say, "Can you believe he stood up when I approached the table?" It makes us feel important. And it makes you important because we talk about it.
- By Christina Hendricks
1. If you're confused about whether a guy likes you or not, that's probably not good. Confusion in romance belongs only in romantic comedies because it suspends the plot, but suspense in real life sucks. So try not to analyze the events. The truth will reveal itself without you having to do anything.
2. Sometimes guys flirt with you or pay attention to you because it makes them feel good about themselves. (Hey, we do it, too.)
3. Even a guy who will admit that you're better looking than him should still be able to tell you you're beautiful. If he holds back in order to control the situation, or to keep you, or keep you down, he's got issues.
4. Don't help him ask you out by texting him something nice or polite. I'm glad you're more outgoing and thoughtful than he is, but he doesn't want the help.
5. Guys want to get busy more than anything. They'll say anything to close the deal.
6. It's shocking how much guys will talk about marriage. Until there's a ring on your finger, it will be better for you if you pretend you're deaf.
7. It's better not to lift a finger in the beginning.
8. In the early stages, giving him presents is too much. Generosity looks desperate to guys. You may be a great shopper and gift-wrapper; it may be his birthday and you may be wild about birthdays — even still, he'll think you're just wild about him. Too wild.
9. Guys just do not think like girls. I wish I'd had a brother. Real boys are nothing like the boys in movies.
10. They might take a decade to mature. Don't hope they'll grow up or be ready in the next six months.
11. Even if your family thinks there's going to be a marriage, don't let them spoil your guy. Yes, he's grateful you gave him your car when he moved out of NYC, but he would rather have had to work for it.
12. Learn to cook. Learn to cook well. I see now that it would have won me a lot of points. A LOT.
13. Just because he might be smarter than you or more talented at certain things doesn't mean he's your servant and won't mind doing all your homework/research/chores.
14. Guys get resentful, too.
15. You're special, unique, and important, but you're not a princess — no matter what Daddy says (although for the record, my dad calls me "Erin").
16. It's okay to say no. It's more than okay. It's always okay. If he stops calling (and many, many, many will), you're only weeding out the guys who aren't truly interested in you as a person. Time saved!
17. Playing it safe guarantees you'll have more time and energy to think about your grades or your work. Less drama in your life will always be better and healthier for you.
18. You deserve to be treated like a human being.
19. Your wants and needs are just as important as his, and if you don't express them because you think it will scare him away, then you're saying you don't count as much as he does.
20. Even sophisticated people with professional jobs can have tempers or hit you or use foul language. I've known men who dressed like diplomats but they were ugly human beings.
21. You can't force chemistry. If you like him as a friend, the attraction might grow, but if it doesn't, don't force it. And don't waste his time.
22. Ease up on the sauce. Alcohol clouds your judgment.
23. No boyfriend-girlfriend relationship starts with a 1 a.m. booty text.
24. When a guy has taken you to Applebee's five times and you say you want to treat him, he'll be psyched. But secretly he'll freak out if you take him to Ruth's Chris, even just the one teeny time. Don't try to match him one Ruth's Chris for five Applebee's. Take him out, but go to T.G.I. Friday's.
25. Women love attention. A guy needs to be pretty crazy about you in order for him to pay enough attention to make you happy long-term.
26. My mom always said, "Men don't think." I thought she meant, "They are mistaken in their thoughts." But they're just not thinking anything at all. About you. They're watching the game. That's why they haven't called.
27. There should be a medium ground between workaholism and his absolute devotion. "The knight departing for new adventures offends his lady, yet she has nothing but contempt for him if he remains at her feet" (Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 658).
28. Never underestimate the quality of "interesting." Men want someone interesting. They really do. Find some hobbies.
29. What are you hoping to gain by hooking up with this guy? If the answer is "him," that's a bad deal for you. "The woman gives herself, the man adds to himself by taking her" (de Beauvoir 659).
30. Expectations? They'll ruin every dating experience you have.
31. You will never understand men. Just try to understand yourself.
Then BOOM....... He tells me he never, ever, ever wants to have kids. Complete and total DEAL BREAKER.
Now usually I would assume he was just "young" and would change his mind later on in life. But from my experience, guys will usually say they aren't ready for kids now, but they ALWAYS are open to the idea in the future. Or they say they will definitely have kids in the future. This guy had his many reasons for why he never wants kids and I believe he never wants them.
I 120% want kids. It got me thinking though. If I fell madly in love, could I give up my desire for children if my partner didn't want them. Nope. Never could. I would RATHER have a child than ever get married. If I had to choose.
So that was that. Deal Breaker. Either I continue to date him "hoping" he would change his mind and then suffer extreme heartbreak and a waste of time when he never does. Or just end it now and not even get into it. Unfortunately I have to choose the latter. It's amazing how tough dating it is and what bad luck loop I seem to be stuck in. But live and learn.
On to the next...
I have ALWAYS believed this, but it's generally pretty hard for me to experience it because I am always expecting things. Or at least hoping or wishing for certain things to happen. So when I do get the rare occurrence of being totally caught off guard by something I wasn't expecting, it's amazing to me.
I am writing about this because this happened to me yesterday. I had been stressing myself out to the extreme hoping/waiting for something. I had just accepted the fact that it wasn't going to happen and BOOM... Randomness out of nowhere. Who knows where this will lead, but I find it hilariously fascinating. Love it! And it's always more exciting when something good happens that you never thought would.